Is Mother’s Day without your mom even a real holiday anymore? I hate when people say the word “lost” when someone passes away. I didn’t “lose” my mom I know exactly where she is.
My Mom passed away 15 years ago in July. She was diagnosed with colon cancer when I was a freshman in high school. Her doctor only gave her six months to live but she surpassed those odds like she did everything in life, with strength and grace. If you had just seen my Mom out in public you would probably not even know that she was sick. She went through four years of surgeries, chemo treatments, radiation treatments, and so many medications and she never lost her hair. She lost weight but she never looked sickly skinny until the very end. I only hope that if something like that happens to me I can be as strong as her.
My Mom passed away the summer after I graduated from high school. I am so glad she got to see me walk across that stage at graduation. She got out of the hospital the day before and still got all dressed up, makeup and all, and attended my graduation in a wheelchair. She didn’t want that wheelchair and she didn’t want special treatment but I was so glad to see her in the front row so she could see me get my diploma.
I have graduated twice more since then but none of those graduations were as special to me.
I miss my Mom every single day and I still can’t believe I won’t ever see her again on this earth again. There are days that are harder than others but especially Mother’s Day. I love Facebook and all forms of social media but seeing everyone post pictures of them actually celebrating the day with their moms makes me want to shut down. The only pics I have to post are at least 15 years old and most are blurry or out of focus. I wish I had a good pic of me with my Mom but 15 years ago selfies didn’t really exist and photography isn’t what it is today. Neither did iPhones or social media and that seems so weird to me because I know my Mom would have been all over it.
My Mom was the “cool Mom”, always listening to the same music as my friends and I and wearing similar clothing. I remember one day she came to pick me up from school, I think my car was in the shop, and she had the sunroof open and was blaring Blackstreet’s No Diggity. It was epic!! And another time I was going on a first date and couldn’t find anything to wear and when I came home from school that Friday the shirt I had been eyeing at Stage was waiting on my bed for me. She loved a good surprise. I do to.
So I guess if this post has a point it would be to never take advantage of the time you have with your Mom. Take tons of selfies and pics with your Mom. Listen to her advice and then take it it because she’s probably right. You never know how long you have left with her and how much other people wish they could see or just talk to their Moms.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the motherless. You Mom matters too.